The Organic Growth of Trust or The Mechanics of Genuine Trust.
Trust is a fundamental aspect of human relationships, but it cannot simply be spoken into existence. It is a delicate process that either grows or does not, and it can be easily broken or destroyed. This essay explores the importance of repetitive behavior, the role of instincts, and the limitations of verbal requests in cultivating trust. Additionally, it highlights the significance of consistency in fostering genuine, authentic, and grounded trust.
One of the primary ways trust is developed is through repetitive behavior. When we interact with someone over a period of time, observing their actions and consistency, trust gradually begins to take root. This process is akin to planting a seed, which can only grow if the behavior continues to repeat according to any agreements that have been made. Trust is fertilized by repetitive consistent behavior, and it is through this consistency that we gain certainty and learn to trust. We trust that gravity will continue to behave as it has done, because it has been consistently behaving that way.
But humans quite often try to skip the earning portion of trust for expediency’s sake. We hear this in suspenseful stories all the time often in life or death scenarios.
“There’s no time! I need you to trust me!”
In situations where someone asks us, "Can I trust you?" it is not our place to decide. We can only be honest about our intentions and actions. The decision to trust lies with the individual, who must rely on their instincts and personal experiences. Trust, in this sense, is not something that can be demanded or granted through verbal assurances. It is an organic process that requires time and evidence of consistent behavior. It is not a magic spell spoken into existence.
Attempts to rush the growth of trust through the dominant dictation of phrases like "trust me" are futile. In fact, such attempts often reveal impatience and a desire for trust solely for personal gain. Trust cannot be forced or manipulated. It is earned through actions and behaviors, not through any form of verbal magic.
“Might is right” aims to manufacture trust quickly through fear. Control through dominance and fear builds a different kind of trust. The trust that the tyrant(s) will harm us in some way. Fear of a person is trusting that they are dangerous.
Furthermore, trust that is not built on repetitive, consistent behavior is superficial and illusory. Genuine trust, the kind that is authentic and grounded, can only manifest through a process of observing repeated actions and behaviors. Any other form of trust is merely a facade or a result of buying or demanding credit. Trust that is not rooted in consistency is fragile and easily fractured.
Trust is a vital component of human relationships, but it cannot be instantaneously created or demanded. It grows over time through repetitive, consistent behavior. Verbal requests for trust hold little value unless they are supported by actions that align with those requests. Trust is an organic process that requires patience, observation, and the willingness to let it develop naturally. By understanding the importance of repetitive behavior and the limitations of verbal assertions, we can foster genuine, authentic, and grounded trust in our relationships.
Real trust grows like a flower, and cannot be rushed.
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