The Organic Growth of Trust or The Mechanics of Genuine Trust.

Trust is a fundamental aspect of human relationships, but it cannot simply be spoken into existence. It is a delicate process that either grows or does not, and it can be easily broken or destroyed. This essay explores the importance of repetitive behavior, the role of instincts, and the limitations of verbal requests in cultivating trust. Additionally, it highlights the significance of consistency in fostering genuine, authentic, and grounded trust.

One of the primary ways trust is developed is through repetitive behavior. When we interact with someone over a period of time, observing their actions and consistency, trust gradually begins to take root. This process is akin to planting a seed, which can only grow if the behavior continues to repeat according to any agreements that have been made. Trust is fertilized by repetitive consistent behavior, and it is through this consistency that we gain certainty and learn to trust. We trust that gravity will continue to behave as it has done, because it has been consistently behaving that way.

But humans quite often try to skip the earning portion of trust for expediency’s sake. We hear this in suspenseful stories all the time often in life or death scenarios.

“There’s no time! I need you to trust me!”

In situations where someone asks us, "Can I trust you?" it is not our place to decide. We can only be honest about our intentions and actions. The decision to trust lies with the individual, who must rely on their instincts and personal experiences. Trust, in this sense, is not something that can be demanded or granted through verbal assurances. It is an organic process that requires time and evidence of consistent behavior. It is not a magic spell spoken into existence.

Attempts to rush the growth of trust through the dominant dictation of phrases like "trust me" are futile. In fact, such attempts often reveal impatience and a desire for trust solely for personal gain. Trust cannot be forced or manipulated. It is earned through actions and behaviors, not through any form of verbal magic.

“Might is right” aims to manufacture trust quickly through fear. Control through dominance and fear builds a different kind of trust. The trust that the tyrant(s) will harm us in some way. Fear of a person is trusting that they are dangerous.

Furthermore, trust that is not built on repetitive, consistent behavior is superficial and illusory. Genuine trust, the kind that is authentic and grounded, can only manifest through a process of observing repeated actions and behaviors. Any other form of trust is merely a facade or a result of buying or demanding credit. Trust that is not rooted in consistency is fragile and easily fractured.

Trust is a vital component of human relationships, but it cannot be instantaneously created or demanded. It grows over time through repetitive, consistent behavior. Verbal requests for trust hold little value unless they are supported by actions that align with those requests. Trust is an organic process that requires patience, observation, and the willingness to let it develop naturally. By understanding the importance of repetitive behavior and the limitations of verbal assertions, we can foster genuine, authentic, and grounded trust in our relationships.

Real trust grows like a flower, and cannot be rushed.

Stay Mindful

InteGritti

America Accountable

This piece began as a mindfulness exercise for me. I wanted to paint how I felt about the country I was raised in,

The United States of America.

I’d like to take you through my thought processes in the hopes that it resonates with others like me, and to avoid any misunderstandings

The Stars

The name of my country is already misleading since it doesn’t mention the 14 territories it currently claims. For this reason there are 65 stars including the capital.

The Circles

It is impossible to ignore the giant political divide that has been evolving since the inception of my country. Both sides sporting their colors anywhere and every where.

I see countless groups in their bubbles and constantly at odds with others refusing to widen their perspectives and certain of their justifications.

The Lines

I see so many mistakes not being taken accountability for, and I’m certain I’m not aware of them all. There are so many, but the ones I found when I searched my heart were as follows:

Gold - Greed

Feather - Genocide

Chain - Slavery

Crosshairs - Violence

Road - Consumerism

Railroad - Exploitation

Tribal Tattoo - Colonization

Rainbow - Discrimination

Pills/Daisies - Women’s Rights/Sufferage

Film - Lies

Code - Propaganda

Red blooded

Blue blooded

This is my country as I see it and I am here. I’m not better than anyone, or more important, or in any way entitled to anything.

I’m not trying to sway anyone or attack anyone. I just wanted to speak my peace and add it to the conversation.

I am an American and I am grateful to be one. However we have to own our mistakes if we are ever to evolve beyond them.

I hope we figure out this experiment we are all actively participating in.

Stay Mindful

InteGritti

My Reflection on Our Shared Journey: Evolving Together in Unity and Hope

Happy Hump Day One & All

In this introspective essay, I intend to explore my belief that our greatest task as human beings is to humbly encourage each other's growth and persevere through the trials we encounter. During my darkest moments, it is the words of those long gone that strike a chord within me, reminding me of our shared humanity and the humility that comes with being human. We are all in this together, whether we acknowledge our unity or remain divided on the planet we call Earth. To achieve our goal of resilience, we must recognize and embrace our ongoing collective experience.

A pressing question lingers in my mind: will we, as a species, continue to evolve in a manner that nurtures our existence, or will we succumb to destructive patterns resembling a virus? Perhaps a shared event, yet to unfold, could serve as a catalyst for unity, or perhaps it has already occurred, and we are only awaiting its consequences. In the present moment, certainty eludes us, leaving all outcomes hanging in the balance. I sincerely hope that we do not become a planet ravaged by nuclear fallout, transforming our world into a no-fly zone in the universe. I yearn for us to be more than a cautionary tale for future civilizations.

Recognizing my own insignificance in the grand scheme of things, I acknowledge that my perspective is shared by only a few among the 8 billion individuals inhabiting this planet. The process of evolution continues, and I am left to ponder whether humanity will adapt and thrive or remain stagnant. Please understand that my intention is not to speak down to others or claim intellectual superiority. Instead, I offer these reflections as lessons learned from the stories I have heard, aiming to prevent unnecessary conflicts. The very act of being alive presents us with enough challenges; additional strife is gratuitous and avoidable.

In conclusion, I urge mindfulness, encouraging us all to remain present and aware. I sign off as Chris, one tiny human being among billions, sharing my perspective with ignorant humility. This essay serves as a reminder that we are all part of a collective journey. It is through unity, understanding, and continuous growth that we can face the future with hope. Together, let us embrace our shared humanity and strive towards a better tomorrow.

Signing off on this Valentine’s Day from the razor edge of the abyss, but I’m still here.

Are you?

Stay Mindful

Chris Gritti

The Importance of Valuing Losers: A Celebration of the Game

In our society, we often place great importance on winners and their accomplishments. We admire those who overcome challenges, achieve success, and emerge victorious. However, amidst our focus on winning, we have lost sight of the true essence of competition and the significance of the losers. This essay aims to shed light on the value of losers and why, in my opinion, they deserve much more gratitude and appreciation.

When it comes to organized competition, we often hear people say, "I play to win" or "The point of the game is to win." While success is undoubtedly a goal, it is essential to remember that the essence of a game lies in the act of playing and the challenges experienced during it. Similar to watching a good movie, the enjoyment of a game occurs during the struggle, not just the eventual outcome. The fun and excitement are intertwined with the process, and the celebration should extend beyond mere victory.

Every losing team or individual contributes to the game's existence just as much as the winners. Without both sides, there would be no game to play. It is crucial to acknowledge that winners are only winners in comparison to the losers. Their triumph is temporary and subjective. In the broader context of life, they are merely fellow human beings navigating their individual journeys.

Let us take the example of a widely celebrated event like the Super Bowl in American football. The focus is primarily on the winning team, while the losing team often receives less attention. Both teams deserve recognition and celebration for their achievements in reaching such a prestigious stage. The dedication, perseverance, and training required to participate in such a game are immense. Even for those who are not avid football fans, witnessing such skilled athletes compete is still a thrilling experience.

The true thrill of a game lies within the game itself. It does not require an audience or fans to be played and enjoyed. While fans and audience participation add an exciting element to the experience, they are not necessary for the game's existence. Therefore, it becomes evident that the losers of every game hold more importance to the game itself than the audience or fans.

It is time to reevaluate our perspective and shift the focus from solely celebrating winners to acknowledging the efforts and contributions of losers as well. When one achieves victory, it is essential to express gratitude to the losers because, without their participation, the win would not be possible. Winners depend on losers for context and comparison. By recognizing the significance of the losing side, we can embrace a more inclusive and well-rounded perspective on competition.

We play first and foremost for the game itself. Winning is a potential outcome as is losing. Like so many things it’s about the journey not the destination

In conclusion, the concept of winners and losers in games extends beyond mere individual achievements. It is crucial to appreciate the losers as integral parts of the game. The thrill, joy, and challenge of a game are experienced during the gameplay, and both winners and losers are essential components of this experience. By shifting our focus from solely celebrating winners, we can create a more inclusive and balanced approach to competition. So, the next time you emerge victorious, remember to thank the losers properly, for without them, your victory would not be possible. Let us celebrate the game as a whole and stay mindful of the contributions made by all participants.

And just to be transparently clear I don’t believe we need trophies of any kind for either side. We don’t need first place trophies, or medals or second place or participation or anything. I don’t need a reward for playing the game. Like it or not, nobody else needs a reward for them either. needs and wants are not mutually exclusive, whether you wish to accept it or not. Awards are encouragement Placed on top of a game like the cherry on a banana split. A banana split is still delicious with or without the cherry on top. I’m talking about substance here people.

Stay Mindful

InteGritti